Someone who deserves you

They say that it is better to have somebody walk away from you than all over you. Sounds like good advice, but what if you are the one who cannot walk away?

Well in that case, remember this: it takes TWO people to make a relationship work. You can care about somebody enough to last three/ four lifetimes, but if that other person does not return those same feelings, it still won't be enough.

Contrary to what you make think or feel, it is not the end of the world and yes you can live without them.

Instead of clinging to false hope, focus your attention and your feelings on somebody who needs them more- you. Ask yourself: "What do I REALLY need right now?" Chances are it's not that other person; instead, you most likely need time to yourself. It's okay to be alone every now and again.

Being alone will allow you time to heal, re-discover, and even re-invent yourself. You can take all the time you need. Build upon what you've learned from your failed romance, namely: "What are my strengths/ weaknesses and does this other person TRULY cherish them?" 

Sure this is going to take time and yes it's much easier said than done, but once you re-focus on yourself, you will realize that in order to honestly love someone else, you must first love yourself. Think about it: Do you really want to spend your life with somebody who has self-esteem issues and is in constant need of your consent (if your answer is "Yes", then you probably have your own set of issues, in which case I cannot help you. Godspeed)?

The point of this article is not to get you "ready" for your next relationship as much as it is to help you re-define what a relationship is and what they need in order to thrive. Like Aretha Franklin once said: "I'm saving all my lovin' for someone who's lovin' me!"

Go on now. Go. Find yourself. I guarantee you that there is somebody out there who is working on getting their self ready just for you [;