Someone who deserves you

They say that it is better to have somebody walk away from you than all over you. Sounds like good advice, but what if you are the one who cannot walk away?

Well in that case, remember this: it takes TWO people to make a relationship work. You can care about somebody enough to last three/ four lifetimes, but if that other person does not return those same feelings, it still won't be enough.

Contrary to what you make think or feel, it is not the end of the world and yes you can live without them.

Instead of clinging to false hope, focus your attention and your feelings on somebody who needs them more- you. Ask yourself: "What do I REALLY need right now?" Chances are it's not that other person; instead, you most likely need time to yourself. It's okay to be alone every now and again.

Being alone will allow you time to heal, re-discover, and even re-invent yourself. You can take all the time you need. Build upon what you've learned from your failed romance, namely: "What are my strengths/ weaknesses and does this other person TRULY cherish them?" 

Sure this is going to take time and yes it's much easier said than done, but once you re-focus on yourself, you will realize that in order to honestly love someone else, you must first love yourself. Think about it: Do you really want to spend your life with somebody who has self-esteem issues and is in constant need of your consent (if your answer is "Yes", then you probably have your own set of issues, in which case I cannot help you. Godspeed)?

The point of this article is not to get you "ready" for your next relationship as much as it is to help you re-define what a relationship is and what they need in order to thrive. Like Aretha Franklin once said: "I'm saving all my lovin' for someone who's lovin' me!"

Go on now. Go. Find yourself. I guarantee you that there is somebody out there who is working on getting their self ready just for you [;

Keep me in your heart: Thoughts on the HOUSE series finale

Goes without saying: If you have not yet seen the final episode, or intend to, read no further. 

The whole point of a movie is to show the change in a character over time. However, when it comes to successful television series, change is not what we want to see (see: The Simpsons, Family Guy, or Spongebob for other examples).

House did not last eight years on television by changing. In fact, fans of the show love him just the way he is: a narcissistic, cane-wielding, pill-popping, pompous ass.

Hugh Laurie himself said that one of HOUSE's mantras has always been that people don't change; this is evident in eight-season run-time. Laurie also said that fans of the show should not expect a "last minute change" to the title character during its swan song.

Excuse me Mr. Laurie, but I do recall House himself say "I can change" somewhere in that final episode.

However, in the real world, people do change; it's just not easy to do and may indeed take a shocking, life-altering event (like having your best friend diagnosed with cancer and you realizing that you two only have five months left together) to do so. So in that aspect, the series finale was a good ending.

HOW I THINK HOUSE SHOULD HAVE ENDED:

House spends the majority of the last episode in a burning building after waking up next to a dead heroine addict. House sees no point in going on, that is until different parts of his conscientious comes to him in the form of some long-dead co-workers (reminiscent of A CHRISTMAS CAROL), and convince him to change.

After about the fourth co-worker spirit or so, House finally decides that he can change for the better; so he picks himself up off the floor and it is at that moment he sees Wilson running towards him. And what should happen next? A chunk of the floor above him comes flying down on House, shortly followed by a huge explosion.

Shortly afterwards, there is a funeral in House's honor. Everybody has something nice to say about House and how he impacted their world without realizing it (ain't that special?). This is how it should have ended (not any of this faking your death stuff). How perfect would that have been to the series? House spends the whole eight years being an ass and trying to prove to everybody that people don't change and when he finally decides to, it's too late.

Maybe it's too dark, but HOUSE hasn't always been about sunshine and daises.

Holding Out for a Hero

Outside of the basic necessities and commodities, there are a few other things in life that we all need: love, support, and acceptance. We want to feel the warm embrace of a loved one, we want to feel like our family or even a close friend has our back during though times, and we yearn for acceptance from... pretty much everyone else.

These are things we all want, yes; however, what we DESERVE is determined by how we act and how we treat others. For example, if you pay somebody a visit with the intention of ending their life and you succeed, then I think it'd be fair to say that you probably DESERVE to spend the rest of your life behind bars, no matter the circumstance (other than self-defense, of course!). 

I don't know what your definition of a hero is, but seeing is how the real world lacks genetically-altered super-humans or mutants, my definition of a hero is as follows: somebody who selflessly treats other the way they NEED to be treated as opposed to the way they DESERVE to be treated. For example, when somebody does something wrong by you or hurts you in some way, your instinct is to retaliate; however, when you can control that urge and make the decision to treat that person with the love, support, and acceptance that they truly need in order to get over whatever bump it is in their life that may be causing them to act this way towards you in the first place, then that makes you a hero in my book.

Doing this will make you feel better in two ways: First, you are allowing whatever stress of the offense that the person has put on you to just roll off your shoulders. Second, you will feel secure in knowing that you are doing all you can to help this person who is in obvious need of those three needs.

It ain't easy to do this, I know, but if everybody treated everybody else like this then the world would be a perfect place and we wouldn't need heroes because everyone would be a hero.

Epilogue: 

To those who make it a personal goal in life to do treat others the way they NEED to be treated as opposed to how they DESERVED to be treated (you probably know who you are), thank you because somewhere you've made a difference in somebody's life- including mine.

Skin Deep?

Whatever happened to "Beauty is only skin deep"? Judging by how often I hear girls (and some guys) talk about their outward appearance, I think it'd be safe to assume that a vast majority of today's young people missed that memo.

When I get up in the morning (on the days where I actually get up in the morning), the first thing I see is my sister checking herself in the mirror, applying her makeup, and then re-checking for any zits and/or blemishes she may have missed. I imagine that this is the same scene that plays out every morning in every bathroom across America.

Now, I'm not condemning makeup or the idea of trying to look your best, but it's probably not healthy to obsess over it. How can you tell if you're obsessing over how you look? Allow me. If you spend more time each morning looking at yourself in the mirror than you do providing your body with the key nutrients and energy that it needs to actually function for the day, you're obsessing.

So it's Winter time and you're worried about keeping up your complexion?  Not to fear, that's why God gave us spray paint and the power to produce artificial light (all of which is completely safe, by the way) in the form of tanning salons. Because God knows that a little Melanoma is a small price to pay for unleashing the darker, sexier you that's been hiding under your pale, ugly skin this whole time!

If this describes you, don't worry you are not alone. I know a few notables who'd love to squeeze in an appointment with you at the beauty parlor: Snooki, Paris Hilton, Ryan Seacrest,  Adam Lambert, Winona Ryder (if she hasn't already been banned from that particular beauty parlor for klepting something), and Zac Effron, just to name a few (I'd include Brad Pitt on this list, but, let's face it: he's too gorgeous to be seen with any of you).

Feel stupid yet? Good. That's called progress. This post isn't meant to make fun of or "bash" anybody. Instead, simply point out how silly it is to try and live up to some imaginary standard of beauty that's been set by magazines, billboards, and television shows and advertisements, all of which are meant to get you to buy some product through means of making you feel inadequate. If wearing makeup or being tan honestly makes you feel better about yourself, then go for it. Just realize that you don't need those things to be free your inner swan.

Nerd Against World: The Prologue

 In the beginning... Nothing. Then, suddenly, a big bang! Fast forward 4.6 billion years (give or take a few million years): All the chaos and complexities that originally initiated everything into existence have now ordered themselves into the countless gases, stars, and planets that make up the universe we know today.

Planet Earth is just ONE of those countless planets and, so far as we know, the only one with life developed enough to be considered intelligent. Think about this number... 1:1,000,000,000,000. The fact that we are here is a miracle and what's more amazing still is the fact that YOU are here reading this blog right now.

Don't let the vastness of our universe fool you; the world is still a big place too, made up of its own wide array of complexities. Enough so, that one individual could not possibly even ponder all of them in a single lifetime. Join me, a simple nerd, as I chronicle my journey through the maze of life and attempt to do exactly this.